FIVE EASY WAYS TO PRACTICE MINDFULNESS

We all get stuck, stuck in our thoughts, stuck in our routines, and stuck in our feelings. The invention of electronic devices often robs us of opportunities to experience the complex beauty of the present moment.  Though our bodies are physically present rarely are our minds. The term mindfulness was coined not too long ago, (1979), however mindfulness practice originates thousands of years ago from Eastern religions including Hinduism and Buddhism. Mindfulness is defined as intentional consciousness of our activities and surroundings.  Just by being aware of the sensory world around us, we experience mindfulness. Mindfulness comes with countless benefits including clarity of focus, decreased stress, lowered heart rate, and lowered anxiety levels. Mindfulness is one of my favorite counseling tools to use because with regular practice, it regulates anxiety, stress, and anger.  The great thing about mindfulness is that it can be incorporated into almost every daily activity!

EAT MINDFULLY

Something routine as eating can be turned into a mindful activity. Instead of eating your food in a rush, give yourself the time to savor the meal.  Sit down at a comfortable spot, and experience the taste and texture of the food. Allow your tongue to welcome any fusions of flavors from your meal. Most important when eating mindfully is to put away electronic devices. These devices only serve to distract us.

GET LOST IN THE FLOW OF WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING

My favorite time to get lost in the flow is when I’m cleaning or writing. Whether you like to clean or do something else, any activity you are immersed in is a great way to be mindful.  If you find yourself being distracted away by your thoughts, gently acknowledge it, and guide yourself to what you were doing. Mindfulness does not mean avoiding every thought, but observing these thoughts like passing ships and returning to the present.

TAKE MENTAL PICTURES

Many of us take countless pictures to share on snapchat, Instagram, or Facebook, but how often do we fully experience the awesomeness of what is in front of us? The next time you are at a concert, a festival, or some other event, take one picture and then put away the phone. When you are not fidgeting with your phone to take the perfect picture, you allow yourself to experience the moment to its fullest.  Use your senses to snap “mental pictures” of your surroundings.

PRACTICE MINDFUL DRIVING

If you are anything like me, I have a habit of listening to music or NPR (National Public Radio) on my way to work. Usually I am present enough to pay attention to traffic lights and oncoming cars, but rarely do I drive in silence and observe all that is around me. The next time you are driving to or from work, take the first five or ten minutes of your drive to practice mindfulness. Take notice of your breathing, how your body feels, the road, and traffic around you. Check out this link: https://www.wildmind.org/applied/daily-life/mindful-driving for ten ways to practice mindful driving.

JOURNAL DISTRACTING THOUGHTS

Thoughts getting in the way of you being present? Write them down! Our minds get so cluttered with mind chatter; often we end up in endless cycles of thoughts that make it difficult for us to be focused on the present. Don’t think of what to write or how you are going to write, just write! Doesn’t matter if it’s scribbles, words, or phrases. Writing for five or ten minutes each night before bed is a great way to release any lingering worries and thoughts that may make it difficult to sleep.

Most of the activities listed above are ones we do on a daily basis.  The only ingredient which makes these activities into mindful activities is awareness. Practicing mindfulness doesn’t mean avoiding unwelcome thoughts, but rather acknowledging they exist and focusing back to the present.

Let Go Of Envy

Envy creeps into all of our lives from time to time. Recently on social media I saw someone’s successful project of something I really am interested in completing.  For just a second (or two) petty Julie thought “I’m not going to like that post” as if the person even cared or as if I wouldn’t be disappointed in myself for letting envy get the best of me.  Thankfully, my better angels prevailed and I liked the post because I do wish others well and hope for people to be successful.  I reminded myself of these three things to help tamp down any envy.

·It isn’t for you.

Whatever you may be seeing and desiring of someone else's – it isn’t yours and it isn’t meant for you.  I remind myself that it is OK that others have things I don’t or have an easier time in a situation than I do.  What others have is not mine and has nothing to do with me.  They have their journey and I have mine.  Someone else’s triumphs do not take away from anything I have.  I am not less because someone else has more or has done more than I have.  I only need to concentrate on myself, what is mine and what lessons I am here to learn.

Do not judge or compare to other people’s highlights.

Many times, we are guilty of comparing ourselves to others.  Look at any social media and see all the happy times.  Sometimes it is like everyone is winning some award, or reaching some milestone or getting to go on some adventure and you might feel left behind.  Remind yourself that social media posts don’t give the whole picture.  The post may not tell you all the hours the person worked or obstacles a relationship struggled through or all someone gave up to save for their adventure.  Someone’s highlights is not the whole picture.  Even when talking with family and friends, there are likely pieces you aren’t seeing.  Focusing on what others have that you don’t, especially when you aren’t seeing the whole story is time wasted.

·         Have an abundance rather than scarcity mindset.

Focusing on what others have that you don’t is a scarcity mindset.  It is a feeling of fear that there isn’t enough to go around and somehow you are going to be left behind.  A scarcity mindset can lead to fear-based decisions and being disgruntled about all you don’t have.  Conversely, an abundance mindset is understanding that there is enough for you.  Once someone believes that what they are supposed to have they will have, the easier it is to be open to the possibilities and actually allow what is meant for you into your life.

Next time the envy train is trying to get you aboard, remember these tips!  If you’d like help living your best life, feel free to check us out at www.holdinghopeservices.org.

Live the Holiday Season - Don't wish time away

It is the holiday season!  Ideally, we are connecting with family and friends and acknowledging all for which we are grateful. 

I was listening to a Christmas song –“This Christmas Moment” - my old high school BFF created and performed with the group Digital Soldiers.  (Don’t anyone say I won’t splurge and spend .99 cents on an old friend!) 

"This Christmas Moment - Digital Soldiers"

It is a great song but it also prompted me to think about how many times I hear people say they hate the holiday season and they just can’t wait till it is over.  It is almost as if it is not connected to a real feeling but an ingrained habit on how tiring the season may be. 

This holiday season – Don’t wish time away.  (Actually, try to never wish time away.)  This is what life is.  Enjoying people in our lives.  Connecting with the world around us.  Even if you are away from family or friends or feel alone – there are moments you can connect with the now.  Take a moment of quiet and look at that neighbor’s house with the beautiful Christmas Lights.  Recognize when someone goes out of their way to help someone else.  Honor the commonalities you see with others – especially those we call family and friends - rather than all that divides us.  Take action to fight the injustices that are keeping you up at night and engage with all your being.  If you are making or buying gifts, try to stop and enjoy it rather than just checking off one more task on your to-do list.  Share the stories of your history and your personal holidays with those around you.  Even if you don’t celebrate any of the holidays from around this time of year – focus on what you do celebrate and make an effort to fully engage in each moment – don’t just wait for it to be over.  If you want to take your kids on the Polar Express – do it.  If you want to look at the lights at an arboretum. Do it!  If you want to find a beach to rest on - do it.  If you want to play nonstop holiday music – do it.  Just don’t hibernate counting the days to January.

Embrace the secret Santa exchanges (or as my work team is doing this year, a secret menorah exchange) at work and the holiday parties and the bustle of the seasons.  Write out Christmas cards to connect with those who come in and out of our lives.  Go to the holiday concerts and school activities.  Create your own ritual for those with whom you can no longer share your holidays.   Embrace the quiet moments you do find - relish them more because they may be far between.  If you feel lonely or sad – feel those feelings – it is all part of the gloriousness of life!

There is never enough time.  There are no guarantees that all the people you love – or even yourself – will be here next year.  Stop yourself when you start to complain about the busyness.  When you hear yourself say that you just want the season to be over – recognize and remind yourself that you really want to enjoy this time of year and remember you have the power to enjoy it.

Live your life.  Actively live your life.  There is never enough time – Don’t wish any of it away.